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Good morning. I’ve posted a pair occasions earlier than about serving to a refugee pal of mine get hold of an abortion, and I wished to replace the hive, particularly in gentle of final week’s court docket choices.

I “adopted” a refugee household shortly after they arrived within the US final fall. (For these questioning, they’re authorized refugees authorised by USCIS with inexperienced playing cards.) The daddy and mom are devoted, loving mother and father to five fantastic youngsters, ages 2-12. They have been stunned to study final fall that they have been anticipating one other child. They’re in dire monetary straits as they work to get their ft beneath them in a brand new, international land. They arrived right here with solely what slot in a couple of suitcases and their monetary assets exhausted from journey. The outdated adage about not having two nickels to rub collectively applies to this household for certain.

On the 22 week ultrasound, they found that the newborn had extreme, life-limiting defects. If circumstances have been higher, maybe they might have met the kid’s lifelong psychological and bodily wants, however not whereas they’re teetering on the sting of poverty with 5 different youngsters.

Right here’s what I’ve discovered on this unhappy course of:

1. Even docs don’t know what our abortion legal guidelines are. The OB who did the ultrasound mentioned there are solely 3 states that can carry out abortions this late, and that the closest one to us is Kansas. We’re in NoVa and DC does them as much as 31 weeks. (I’m considerably suspicious as as to if the physician was making an attempt to steer them towards preserving the being pregnant.)
2. Late abortions are costly. This process was $10,800.
3. However a spectacular community of grants – offered by donations from individuals like the ladies on this board – made it doable for this household to afford it. The Nationwide Abortion Hotline offered all of the funding for this.
4. The Brigid Alliance offered free lodging. Despite the fact that we dwell simply half-hour from the clinic, it’s vital in case of emergency that we stayed proper beside the clinic for this 2-day process. The lodge subsequent door is $250/evening and the Brigid Alliance paid for that and for parking. As extra girls must journey for these procedures as crimson states outlaw them, the Brigid Alliance’s funding will probably be much more wanted for airfare, rental vehicles, taxis, and so on.
5. Virginia Medicaid can pay for abortions in instances of a) rape or incest b) lifetime of the mom c) “incapacitating bodily deformity or psychological deficiency as licensed by a doctor.” The defects of this child didn’t rise to this statutory stage. Your state could fluctuate.
6. The DC clinic that handled my pal just lately opened a newly enlarged workplace as good as any spa I’ve ever been to. The employees is caring and supportive. They mentioned the brand new clinic greater than doubled in dimension in comparison with the earlier one as extra girls are touring to them for the process. In actual fact, my pal needed to wait 3 weeks for a gap as a result of they have been booked – pushing her being pregnant to a sophisticated 26 weeks.
7. “Late-term abortions” is a loaded phrase. I’m deeply spiritual myself and had thought previously that possibly the 15-week bans, and so on, being mentioned wouldn’t be so unhealthy. However seeing this heartbreaking scenario up shut – and understanding that this household had no method of understanding about these defects till an ultrasound previous the dates being mentioned by some politicians – has settled my views on the matter.
8. Unrelated to the above, our immigration and social companies programs are a wreck. We will and should do higher.

Thank all of you who make donations that assist girls afford these procedures. Thanks from me, thanks from the household. This is likely one of the hardest chapters of their lives, and not less than they didn’t have a monetary burden. Thanks so very a lot. Thanks.

PS – thanks to the 2 Muslim posters who volunteered to contact liberal clerics re: prayers for the newborn’s burial. The mother and father determined to go together with a smaller complement of prayers and pray-ers than would usually be used, and the small circle of pals supporting this household can meet that want.

PPS – we have been lucky to discover a native charity that pays for the funerals of stillborn, miscarried, and (in restricted circumstances) aborted infants. Their child will probably be buried Friday in a lovely, peaceable cemetery.


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